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Pain and Gain

19/7/2015

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Pain and Gain

Sitting today in the RNSH Hand Clinic with my fractured wrist and 125 other patients in various states of suffering, my empathy for the pain and frustration of the injured, disabled and the elderly, heightened dramatically. Suddenly, it’s upfront and personal – many capabilities taken for granted last week, have suddenly vanished. As one of the lucky ones with a temporary ailment, my heart goes out to those who have reduced capacities in an ongoing way, such that day to day tasks are a challenge, and much time is consumed by medical appointments.

So what’s the ‘gain’ you may well ask? Actually, I recognise four for me - interdependence, character refinement, new opportunities and gratitude.

Interdependence: Usually, I have little need for much assistance – and I am reluctant to ask unless I really need it. But now, I need to accept help and will enjoy the company of my helpers along the way. I predict they will be more likely to ask for my help in the future too.

Character refinement: Empathy, patience, tolerance, humility, to name a few.*

New opportunities: It’s sad my netball is now over, but I will replace it with the gym. I hope new friends and blessings await me there.

Gratitude: There is nothing like losing something, to appreciate it. (I never knew left wrists were so important until now!) It can make us realise other good things we have too – I am SO grateful it is not my right hand, nor an ankle, with so many steps to our house…

Life can be tough and often it is up to us to take the first step to make it better. Whose help can you enlist or share your pain with, to help find a ‘gain’ from your predicament? Maybe a one-handed chaplain’s?

* My ‘character refinement checklist’: But the Spirit produces love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, humility, and self-control. There is no law against such things as these, (from the Bible, Galatians 5:22-23, GNT).

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Lonely or Alone?

5/7/2015

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There is a significant difference between these two words which can be overlooked. Some people make healthy choices to spend time contentedly alone and find refreshment there. A naturally introverted person will gain energy, creativity and insight from time spent alone.

Loneliness, however, has been called ‘the greatest poverty’ by none other than Mother Theresa. This condition can exist independent of the number of people around, although it is often combined with too much unwanted time alone. ‘To feel lonely is to have an overwhelming feeling of being separate from those around you,’ (http://au.reachout.com/all-about-loneliness). Although it’s a common condition many people will experience during their lives, we don’t want it to linger for too long.

People aren’t necessarily lonely because they lack social skills or are poorly motivated. For example, they may have lost their former networks because of relocation or illness or because those around them have moved on in some way. However, loneliness leaves people feeling flat and less open to socialising, which can become a debilitating combination.

Let us, who are not currently experiencing loneliness, consider those who are.  Are there people nearby who may be sad and lonely, and with whom we can engage? Do you know a single or elderly neighbour who is often alone and may welcome a chat? Can we help connect people to others by introducing them thoughtfully?  Lane Cove is blessed with a plethora of community groups - many very keen to welcome newcomers. An invitation to accompany someone to a group the first time can be helpful. But it will often take an authentic, long term commitment for all involved to resolve loneliness satisfactorily.  But even tough hurdles can be successfully negotiated with a network of support. By doing this, we, the community, create a place for the uniqueness that empowers us to stand contentedly alone, thereby lifting the fog of loneliness.

If you are experiencing loneliness and lacking support, take the first step and contact me and I will do my best to connect you appropriately.

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    The articles here were written by Peter Andrews on behalf of the Chaplaincy Team from beginning 2023.

    Articles prior to that were written by Rev. Karen Paull, previous Lane Cove Community Chaplain.

    Blogs appear in The Village Observer, and are repeated here.

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